Firstly, I’d like to say thank you to Katie Green. Her heart is in the right place and she wants to make the world a better place for women and media by saving girls from going down the eating disorder road. But I don’t totally agree with her campaign ‘Say No To Size Zero’. In fact, I’m quite offended by it.
When I did have an eating disorder, my lowest weight was ‘way under 90 pounds’ (don’t wanna say what it was in case I trigger people) at 5 foot 3. I was definitely in the BMI range of 15-16. I was a size zero. Not surprising.
Now that I’ve put on weight in a healthy way and gained a huge amount of muscle, my weight is sitting around 115-118 pounds these days give or take. My BMI is around 20. But guess what? I’m still a size ZERO! Maybe smaller! GASP! Surprised now?
I swear I am no longer anorexic. If you look at my naked body, it screams MUSCLE! People suffering from anorexia would not have the muscle mass that I have. I have very little body fat but my regular periods prove I don’t have too little body fat. If you don’t believe me, check out my pole dancing videos. That should be enough proof that I am not anorexic anymore. People with anorexia cannot do what I do and there’s no way I could do what I do if I was still anorexic.
So why am I still a size zero? Because I HAVE A SMALL FRAME! My hips are narrow, like really narrow! My rib cage is small. I’m just small boned all around. This isn’t my fault! I was born this way. I would have to eat unhealthy to put on body fat the wrong way to take me out of size zero.
My small frame does not cause eating disorders. Size zero models are not the problem. And by banning naturally smaller framed girls is discrimination. Period.
Sorry Katie but your size zero problem is not really the problem. The problem is sexism, society, media and the modeling industry.
Stop saying no to size zero models and say YES TO ALL BODY SHAPES AND SIZES!
The real problem is The modeling industry has a DIVERSITY PROBLEM! They only allow a certain look into this industry. If the modeling industry was diverse and if the modeling industry celebrated all shapes and sizes, then women who are trying to get into this industry would not be doing drastic unhealthy things to make their bodies unnaturally thin when their bodies weren’t meant to be thin. Instead, we should be seeing all kinds of women in runway shows and women feeling comfortable in their own skin. If the modeling industry celebrated diversity, then young teens looking at vogue or other magazines would not feel pressured to be thin because thin models would be a small percent. Teens would see more average diverse bodies in magazines and would think whatever their own body looks like must be okay!
I wanna see curvier women in Victoria’s Secret. I want to see flat chested women. I want to see muscular women. I want to see runway model’s thighs rub together. I want to see a booty! I want to see women with stretch marks and some cellulite. I want to see strong empowered women!
If we saw all kinds or women in the modeling industry, then every woman in the modeling industry would not be starving themselves to be a size zero because size zero models will be a small small percent. While naturally super thin girls do exist, they are still a small percentage.
By the way, the BMI scale is out dated and not a proper health indicator tool. But that’s another rant for another day…
Katie Green + Say No To Size Zero = FAIL!Read More
(Opinion) I’m so glad winter is almost over. It was a brutal winter. It was so dark and so cold and I think I saw the sun like.. twice in the last few months?
This winter validated I don’t belong in the North and belong somewhere hot and sunny. I’ve always suffered on and off with anxiety and depression but this winter was constant! Since December I’ve felt this heavy weight on my shoulders. I felt this constant negative humming in my brain. It was depression that just wouldn’t lift and give me any break. It was constant for months! I think I had a severe case of seasonal affective disorder. I hate winter! AHHH! I wanna live where there’s sun all year round! I was so depressed this winter I couldn’t even celebrate my 30th birthday. I was so depressed that I just laid in bed for days/weeks and cried. I just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up. I donno what I’d do without my hubby. He is my constant strength in my life. He’s always there for me. He is the only person in the world that has always been there for me! Sometimes I think he doesn’t ‘get’ mental health only because he has not experienced it or know anyone that goes through it. But he never gives up on me, even when I give up on my self.
My health this winter also sucked. I was sick since my first pole competition end of September that lasted a couple months. Then I had about a week relief but then I got sick again for another 5 weeks. I think I was healthy for a week out of the entire winter. WTF! I haven’t been in this poor health in a few years!
Coincidentally for the first time in 10 years I stopped tanning in moderation. I went 6 months without the sun or UV lights touching my skin. Coincidentally I was not taking as many supplements as I used to. All I was taking about about 5000IU of D a day, probiotics and some omegas. I really don’t think this is enough. During those couple of years where I wasn’t getting sick– I was tanning, I was taking greens, berry antioxidants, a super strong multivitamin, D, B, omegas, and I had done some expensive detoxes. Coincidence? No I think not. Now you may disagree if you want but I truly believe a diet super high in nutrition prevents sicknesses. I know tanning had a huge effect too.
So I went tanning about 3 times now in 2 weeks and my eczema cleared up. For the first time in 10 years I broke out in eczema! Vitamin D deficiency? I think so!
Because this winter sucked so bad, I didn’t workout as nearly as much as I wanted to. I hardly practised for my pole performances. I did very little activity in between. I tried to eat as healthy as I could but of course I don’t think it was enough. My summer abs somewhat disappeared. I know they are still there and just hiding under some fat. But that’s okay. I’m totally okay with that and I don’t really care! LOL! I’m still pretty fucking ripped for 30 years old! Oh and I finally got the splits for my 30th birthday. That was a real treat!
In the last week I feel my energy coming back a little. I have been doing some home workouts and getting back onto that pole! I’ve started running again with my dog when the weather isn’t shit. I ran just over 5K this morning. I have a big pole performance coming up in June in Hamilton at the Lyric Theatre. VerticaLove Presents The Canadian Pole Dance & Artistry Showcase June 14th and 15th. I’m not sure which night I’m performing yet.
I’m really excited for this spring and summer because there is soooo much going on in my life. Pole, working out, running, work, doing some other side jobs (home renovations). Awesome.Read More
All I can say is BRAVO KOTEX!
Thank you Kotex for creating this whole campaign promoting ‘period positive’. Thank you so much for promoting anti-shaming, dispelling the myths and educating us about vaginal health.
Um yeah you Kotex people are pretty awesome!
ONE IN THREE WOMEN ON THE PLANET WILL BE RAPED OR BEATEN IN HER LIFETIME.
ONE BILLION WOMEN VIOLATED IS AN ATROCITY
ONE BILLION WOMEN DANCING IS A REVOLUTION
On V-Day’s 15th Anniversary, 2.14.13, we are inviting ONE BILLION women and those who love them to WALK OUT, DANCE, RISE UP, and DEMAND an end to this violence. ONE BILLION RISING will move the earth, activating women and men across every country. V-Day wants the world to see our collective strength, our numbers, our solidarity across borders.
What does ONE BILLION look like? On February 14th, 2013, it will look like a REVOLUTION.
ONE BILLION RISING IS:
A global strike
An invitation to dance
A call to men and women to refuse to participate in the status quo until rape and rape culture ends
An act of solidarity, demonstrating to women the commonality of their struggles and their power in numbers
A refusal to accept violence against women and girls as a given
A new time and a new way of being
Calling all pole dancers and aerialists! Doesn’t this just make sense to you??? Doesn’t this just feel so right??????? I’m sure many of us have our own stories, or know someone who has been a victim of sexual violence. We live a rape culture where sexual violence towards women is tolerated and a social norm. THIS IS FUCKED UP! I WILL NOT TOLERATE THIS ANY MORE! Sexual violence is so tolerated that even when I was sexually assaulted, I couldn’t even admit that I was sexually assaulted until yesterday! Yep, yesterday. And this happened over 8 years ago! Because society taught me to point out all my mistakes leading up to the assault so I blamed myself entirely so that it wasn’t even sexual assault to me. This fuckhead probably doesn’t even realize what he did was sexual assault! And this is the biggest problem in society: some rapist don’t even know they are rapists for fuck sakes!
Look at the stigma pole dancers still face today! I believe the stigma we face is pre-violence. Well think about it…! Strippers are treated like they are subhuman without any rights and if something happens to them it’s their own fault! This stigma makes sexual violence towards them tolerated! Pre-Violence! Strippers have little to no protection when they are at work. Well strippers are human beings too so they also do deserve rights and protection and free from violence. As pole dancers we may also be blamed for our own safety. How about raising a new generation of people who will respect strippers? Not dehumanize them!
But anyhoo, One Billion Rising just feels so right. So my plans are to create a pole dance video dedicated to this whole global movement and tag the hell out of it with #1billonrising. I would love to see other pole dancers participate. Who’s joining me?
Check out this website for more information. http://onebillionrising.org/Read More
All I can say is YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AMEN!!! Afuckingmen!!!!!!!!!!!!!! W00T! Go Sheila Kelley!
“Strip away all those false pretences and the ideas you have about the female body. And I need you to strip your minds wide open.” – Sheila Kelley
“The pole is a symbol for the next and forth wave of the feminist movement……The personal reclamation of the female body and sexuality within… IT’S CRAZY RIGHT?!?!?!!!! The stripper pole representing the feminist movement! That’s got to have some people rolling in their graves!”
Please check out http://www.sheilakelley.com/redefiningsexy2.asp !
Help Sheila Kelley Redefine Sexy. Share this everywhere, especially on Twitter and on your Facebook wall. Don’t forget to use the hash tag #RedefiningSexy !
“This is more than a campaign, it’s a global movement. 80% of women in the United States are unhappy with the way they look. We’re not going to let that continue. It’s a global epidemic, and elevating the feminine is the cure. The Redefining Sexy campaign will help women, ALL women, believe in their beauty. It’s vital for the survival of women.” – Sheila Kelley
It’s not that I don’t like children. I love children! I still feel like a kid sometimes so I can really relate to them and get along great with kids. I have limitless patients with kids at work and I can prove that with my successful career working with children.
I’m not really sure entirely what it is and why I don’t want children. But I do have a bunch of concerns.
My main concern for not wanting children is because of my mental health problems. And because of that, I cannot handle any stress period. The slightest trigger will set me off and I cannot get out bed for days. I sometimes stop eating. I sometimes hurt myself. Yeah that’s not healthy!
How am I supposed to raise a kid like that? If the simplest life triggers can set me off, then motherhood doesn’t look so good. I don’t think I’d be able to take care of myself. Not because I don’t want to. But because my moods will override my ability to take care of myself sometimes.
I’m not a selfish woman for not wanting children. I would be a selfish woman to have children and subject them to my illness!
Mental health problems run in my family and it was probably most likely passed down to me too. Why would I want genetically pass down such a horrible illness?
Look I’m just being honest. Is it still taboo to talk about mental health? Well I’m just glad that I live in Canada where I even have a choice not to have children and my body belongs to me!
Actually for the first time in my life, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. I also have very little stress and triggers now. Things couldn’t be more perfect in my life. I just don’t want to change anything right now. For the first time in my life, I feel like I’m starting to heal from my depression and anxiety but so slowly I doubt I’d ever be healed in time for children.
Right now in my life I am a pole dancer and an aerialist. They are my new found sport that keeps me in shape. Pole has helped me beat an eating disorder and gotten me into the best shape of my life and I never have to go to the gym again. I will only just get fitter and fitter. For the first time in my life I love my body. For the first time in my life my body is mine and I molded it into what I always dreamed of. Healthy, fit and strong.
Maybe I’m just not ready to give up my body. Pregnancy means I will no longer be able to pole. How will I cope without my medicine- pole dancing?
Besides, pregnancy is dangerous. And with my new heart condition re-diagnosed June 2012, I already got a forewarning about the increased risk I am for complications during pregnancy and labour. I’m not selfish for not wanting to harm my baby.
Times are different these days. Being generation Y, I’ll never be as financially well off like our parents and grandparents. Women used to stay home and not even work while the man provided for the family. That’s just not going to work for us these days. I have to work and my only job is not enough. We just get by pay check to pay check. I usually work more than one job any ways. How will I be able to work 2 jobs pregnant or with kids? How will I be able to work 2 jobs and look after kids with a heart condition? I just cannot see this working at all.
You know what’s funny? When I talk about my concerns, no one takes me seriously. Everyone is all like..
“you will regret it when you are older”
“what are you going to do when you are old?”
“you will be lonely”
“you will have no one to take care of you”
“don’t think, just get pregnant”
Sorry I think about it. Sorry I am trying to make a responsible mature life altering decision. Sorry I’ve ruined the family dream. Sorry I have failed my only worth in society.Read More
Four years ago I married my best friend! I love you Matty! Happy Anniversary!!! I love you!!!
Did I ever tell you about my mother in law? Well if I didn’t, here it goes. I have the coolest mother in law ever!!!!
A couple years ago my mother in law came to one of my studio’s open house to check out my new found love of pole. Like most mothers, I thought she was just concerned about my new hobby that she wanted to make sure I was okay. Little did I know she had been secretly plotting behind my back to actually try pole! LOL!
Kelly is fearless, strong and tom boy but with lots of bling. She’s not afraid of being nice to people and she has a huge heart of gold. Long story short, so Kelly comes to my open house and tries pole and by the end of the day she bought 10 prepaid classes to learn pole and get fit! *gasp*
I find out later the only reason why she wanted to try pole was to get to be able to spend some more time with her daughter in law! LOL! But then she ends up liking pole…. maybe more than me now… :p…. She poles with or without me now! She’s already surpassing me in pole! She’s SUPER KELLY!! LIKE HOLY CRAP I HOPE I AM LIKE HER AT HER AGE!!!!
The other day she kicked one of her sons out of his own bedroom to turn into a pole room.. LOL!! No I’m kidding she didn’t really kick him out, I think he moved his bedroom or something but the point is my mother in law now has a pole room! She’s hardcore! She even drove all the way to Ottawa to see me compete in the Ontario Pole Fitness Championships!!!
One thing I am really envious about my mother in law is that she is more flexible than I am! NOT FAIR!!!!
So that’s my mother in law. Isn’t she amazing?Read More