Life’s Too Short
Cherish your health. You’ll never know if one day you will wake up and have the rug pulled out from under you. Pole hard. Play hard. You never know if one day you wake up and have all your dreams taken away from you in a snap without warning. Take care of your body. Take care of your health. It’s the only one you get in this life. Don’t let life pass you by. Because it just really might pass by a lot quicker than you think. Because you might wake up with a health problem that might completely change your life in a way you were not expecting. Life’s too short.
Read MoreToronto Pole Dance Fitness Showcase 2012
Wow. For the first time in my pole life I never felt so comfortable in front of an audience. Normally I’d feel like I’m about to piss myself but not this time! I dragged my hubby out and made him wait a few hours before seeing me perform so I had to do my best and make it worth it for him. 
It was jammed packed that night. I mean jammed packed! You could hardly get around in the entire club. But I guess that was a good thing. The turn out was amazing! My performance was not until the end so I was able to sit and watch half the show before I had to go change and warm up. Unfortunately due to the high turn out, I was unable to see much from where I was standing. It was difficult to record the dancers.
Was I nervous? Strangely the night before and the morning of I felt a bit nervous but once I was there I wasn’t any more? Weird. Hahah! I had a routine but I left some spots open and optional depending on how my grip was doing. Surprisingly my grip was AMAZING that night. I think I squeezed a half bottle of Dry Hands before I went up! LOL! How ever, I did leave out a few parts. I forgot to do my floor work in my routine. I skipped huge bunch lol! Oh well.
I am expecting some pics and a HD professionally recorded video of this soon.
Why I Dance
I found this video floating around Facebook so I thought I’d post it here since I find it so motivating. A lot of what these people are saying is very similar in the pole dance fitness community. Including myself. Why I pole dance..
Why I Stopped Following Bodyrock.tv
I stopped following Bodyrock.tv once Lisa Marie got her boob job. Jealous? Yes of course. I have self esteem issues and my entire life I have hated my own chest. I had a C cup in grade 4 and I was bullied because I was a freak for having hit puberty early. I was popular in high school once boobs were in again but I was too hurt from grade 4 to care. I went on the pill and my boobs got bigger. I lost some size when I decided to lose weight because at one point in my life I had a BMI of 29.9! But what really killed me was when I stopped taking the birth control pill and my boobs went from a C to an A. Now I’m too small to shop for bras. The smallest La Senza or Victoria’s Secret bra is too big on me. I can’t even buy bras!!! Now you see why I’ve always wanted a boob job? ALWAYS!!! I just wanted some nice breasts so I can feel like a real women and fill a shirt. I’m 29 years old and most people mistaken me for being in high school because of how petite I am. I just want to be a woman dammit!!!
I’m not just jealous of Lisa Marie’s boob job. It’s a complete slap in the face and goes against everything Bodyrock stood for. I’m not against plastic surgery, I’m against the social pressure women are so easily influenced into thinking there is something wrong with their bodies so they buy unnatural boobs. I’m against perfect bodies going through unnecessary plastic surgery. But Zuzana already had a boob job?? Yes of course she did but she had them and then she got into Bodyrock. Zuzana even spoke out against plastic surgery that she only did it because she had self esteem issues and when she had them done she thought she would feel better about herself but she didn’t. Zuzana preached self acceptance, loving yourself for who you are and how to live a true healthy life style. Lisa Marie was preaching all that stuff too but she threw that out the window after her boob job. They are way too big and unnatural for her. Her body was perfect before. Now she is no longer an example of a ‘healthy woman’. Plus the over sexualization of Bodyrock and Lisa Marie is way over the top now. Read more about The Pornification of Bodyrock.tv.
When Zuzana was on Bodyrock, I found her to be a sense of relief. She is also partly responsible for inspiring me to eat better and get out of eating disorderly ways. Zuzana taught me to like my body again and treat myself better. Zuzana IS Bodyrock. Zuzana set the foundation for Bodyrock. And Lisa Marie changed that.
I left Bodyrock because Lisa Marie is a constant reminder of those negative thoughts I still have/had about myself. I’m a Pole Dance Fitness Instructor and teach many woman. I just don’t teach women pole dancing but I inspire, educate and make women feel better about themselves. I see so many women who come to our studio with baggage and self body image issues and with in a few weeks of being around our positive atmosphere, I start seeing women break out of that shell and healing begins.
So, goodbye Bodyrock.
HELLO ZUZANA!!!!!!!!!!! She’s back with her own YouTube channel. http://www.youtube.com/user/ZuzkaLight
Busy Pole Life
Work, eat, sleep, train, work, eat, sleep, train, work.. The pole life has been busy, yet wonderful. Last night I climbed the poles at the Devil’s Martini in Toronto. I’m sure I wowed the audience. It’s a rush for me! Considering I have a severe case of social anxiety, performing pole drops 15 feet in the air in a night club crowded with people kind of gets me off I’ll admit. :p Yes I know that doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. But it’s liberating? It’s super dangerous too. What if I fell?
My First Hot Yoga Experience
I’ve always been open to trying new fitness things, especially since I teach pole fit at SASS. I think it’s important that I always try new fitness workouts to further educate myself. Having already done regular yoga before, I would say yoga isn’t entirely my most favourite exercise in the world. I’m not one of those women who go, ‘OMG I love yoga’. In fact, I used to spend more time making up excuses why I don’t want to do a yoga session. Yoga really forces me to step outside my comfort zone. Why?
The thing with yoga is you do a lot of stillness, holding awkward positions, breathing exercises and clearing of the mind. Well these are things that are not my most strong points. Being still, holding flexible positions, breathing deeply and clearing of the mind isn’t something I’m good at. My brain just doesn’t work that way. You see.. I have this anxiety disorder I’ve had my entire life.
I’ve tried everything but I cannot cure it. I can cope for the most part. I have my ways of coping but it’s something I’m probably just going have to live with. I’ve had this problem for the first 30 years of my life– I’m pretty sure it’s going to be around for the next 30 years of my life. It’s extremely difficult for me to breath properly. Doctors, chiropractors, natual paths all tell me that I breathe like a person chronically in a fight or flight state of mind. My breaths are shallow and quick. I’m always so tense. I cannot relax. My mind is always racing. Nothing shuts it up. So being in a yoga class is really irritating for me because my brain is so damn NOISY!
Back to hot yoga– Miss Pole Dance Canada and her costume designer, Shanyn and Melody, invited me to join them on their regular weekly hot yoga trip to Burlington followed by lunch at The Naked Sprout! Yesterday they took me to Moksha Yoga. My first initial thought was, wow what a pretty clean friendly place! When we walked into the yoga room, I realized this was not what I was expecting. My initial thought of hot yoga was yoga in a warmer room. When I walked into the room I thought I was in a steam room! The room was hot like a sauna and very humid. I instantly started sweating and took my top off. LOL. I did yoga in my sports bra and long lululemon pants. I wish I brought shorts!
My first hot yoga experience was amazing! The level of difficulty was perfect for me. It wasn’t too hard but it wasn’t easy. The heat wasn’t too unbearable either. Normally I HATE heavy, thick, hot, humid, air like that. I often get the feeling like I can’t breathe in an environment like that but it really wasn’t too bad. There were a few moments where I felt my heart rate jump sky high and I would get that feeling like I couldn’t breathe. And there were a few moments where I thought, omg do I need to leave the room? But then I would look around me and see every one and how relaxed and happy the room was. This was enough to keep telling myself that there was enough air the room and I was fine so shut the hell up mind! lol.
You sweat like CRAZY! It felt like sweat was raining off of me. And in different positions I would feel sweat drip in my mouth and eyes… EWWWWW!!!! You just gotta keep your mouth closed and not think about the sweat. :p
I would definitely go back to Moksha Yoga in Burlington. In fact, I want to take my husband with me next time! But next time I would wear shorts with a sports bra and bring a complete change of clothes next time. Trust me you don’t really want to wear pants or capri! You want shorts! And you will need lots of water and a towel.
The Slut Revolution
It’s time that we take back the word, “slut.” Rush Limbaugh, in his efforts to degrade and silence women by calling them sluts, has actually done us all a huge favor. For an entire week women’s rights have been at the forefront of media and social networks, as females everywhere express their outrage. The event triggered passion and emotion in women who would normally remain passive and silent, and it has inspired a fresh wave of feminism that can change our world and society. In addition, he has done this during March, which is considered “Women’s History Month.” It is almost like he was actually trying to do us a favor.
The way he treated Sandra Fluke was childish, inappropriate, and sexist. However, Sandra Fluke IS a Slut, and I respect her for it. Hear me Out.
What is a Slut? My favorite definition: “A woman with the morals of a man.
Wikipedia says: “A term applied to an individual who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally pejorative and often applied to women as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning “dirty or slovenly.” The term is dated back to the 1400s, when it was used as a derogatory term for women who were sexually free, in other words, “dirty.” It is now 2012, I would think that in the last six centuries we have moved past the idea that women are filthy just because they enjoy sex and pleasure, unless you are hardcore religious and believe that a woman’s place is strictly in the home, in which case you have no place in the Human Right’s Movement, and are therefore a hindrance to social evolution.
The best definition of a Modern Slut comes from the book, “The Ethical Slut” written by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. In the book a Slut is described as: “a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.” A slut is a person who has taken control of their sexuality and has sex with whomever they choose, regardless of religious or social pressures or conventions to conform to a straight-laced monogamous lifestyle committed to one partner for life.”
In the society we live in it is often only considered morally OK, and even encouraged, when a man is allowed to “spread his seed” and fornicate with many women in a studly fashion, yet not morally right for women to do so, hence the derogatory terms and efforts to “punish” or judge women who choose to enjoy sex. Why is it OK that we are allowing morals and ethics to be Gender based? Using the same logic, in a hypothetical world we can also say that it is OK for men to rob and steal, but if a woman does it, it’s wrong. I assume it is safe to say that most of us believe stealing is wrong in general, not based on gender. So why are we inflicting these strict “morals” on an entire gender? Especially on a subject that is so primal and so natural?
Rush called Sandra Fluke a slut. A truly strong Feminist should react with amusement and pride. After-all, she is a slut, and that is perfectly OK. She is sexually liberated, secure, and aware. She indulges in pleasure as is her right. To become offended and shocked over being called a “slut” is giving the word more power than it should have. All the women who are outraged by this are simply reinforcing the negative connotation of the term, which in turn allows for sexually liberated women to be seen in a negative light. It just adds fuel to the fire, shoving sexually-free women into a narrow category to be shunned, silenced, and judged.
After this happened, a wave of so-called feministic women have responded by insisting they are not sluts, posting on social networks about how far away from the slut status they actually are, and boasting about their ability to be loyal or faithful to one man. Women everywhere are passionately justifying their reasons for using birth control, insisting that it is not because they are a “slut.” A good example (and article) on this: http://thegloss.com/sex-and-dating/birth-control-pill-sluts-370/
This is the completely wrong way to go about this. Yes, the politic issue here is about Birth Control. However, there is a social issue at hand here that is even more dynamic and significant; the issue of women being judged and berated for their sexual freedom. The real, crucial issue has more to do with the way women are treating other women, not so much the way men are treating us. Women are fueling the fire and enabling this sexism by becoming outraged at being considered sexually free, when we should be proud at our ability to choose our paths and partners in life. We should embrace the power we have over our bodies, our pleasure, and men.
We have the power to give ourselves love through masturbation. We have the power to seek out pleasure that we deserve. We have the power to experience a variety of connections and sexual adventures in our lifetimes. We have the power to subtly seduce a man with our eyes, yet we can use that same power to dance around a pole and make a man reach into his pockets. We can break hearts, and we can break egos. Our new found sexual freedom in the last few decades have given us the ability to reclaim our power, get in touch with our inner goddess, and truly love ourselves without the dependence of one man.
Are you ashamed of this? If so, then you must believe that women are insignificant robots whose only purpose on earth is to please a man, or maybe you believe that a woman’s sole desire should be to bear children – so much for pleasure, and the natural, primitive desire to be sexual. If that is the case, I would like to know why we have clitorises, or why sex feels so good.
I respect a woman’s choice to be monogamous. If a woman wishes to remain a virgin until marriage, be faithful to her husband for life, or only have sex within a long-term monogamous relationship: That is her choice. It is a beautiful thing that you have that choice. I also have a choice, and I deserve to have my path respected as well. You are no better than me just because you have chosen to be sexually monogamous. Denying you are a slut so adamantly is an insult to the woman’s movement and the progression of equality. When you say the word with disgust, or try to furiously defend your status as a “non-slut,” you are disrespecting the choice that women make to be sexually free, and you are joining the ranks of sexist men who criticize us for that choice. You are affecting the world we live in and the society your child grows up in. We want our daughters to be strong, powerful, and independent so they can live fulfilling lives. We do not want them to be a prisoner to a derogatory term, enslaved by the fear that they may be seen as “dirty” for indulging in pleasure and entertaining their curiosities.
From my perspective it seems that the only reason anyone would be bitter toward sluts, is if they themselves are not sexually free or aware. Why else would you hate on people who enjoy sex? Much of it comes down to people’s individual morals in regards to monogamy. We live in a world where monogamy does not need to be the only option in life. Through technology, social evolution, culture, and the progression of women in society, we have more paths to choose from than just one. We cross paths with more people, we have more opportunities, and we have power over our own sexuality. Many of us choose to take advantage of that freedom, and we deserve to have that choice respected, just as we can also respect the choice many women (and men) make to be monogamous.
The goal is to abolish labels. The word “slut” need not even exist. Unfortunately, it does, and so in the meantime, we can at least take back the power of that word and use it to make a statement. We can use it to express our pride in our bodies and our choices. We can use it express our defiance and tenacity in the fight for equality and empowerment. We can use it to speak louder, and not be silenced.
I envision a world where humans can be free to participate in safe, sane, consensual sex regardless of gender. I imagine a society when women and men can indulge in the physical pleasures of life without being labeled or criticized. The Slut Revolution is for women and men of all walks of life who believe in sexual freedom and the power to choose.
It is time to start The Slut Revolution.
By Lula Kidd
Source: http://theslutrevolution.com/
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